Wednesday 23 April 2014

13 Things mentally strong people don't do

If one day, my children will ever read my entries in this blog, i would want them to really take note on this particular entry. I want them to become a mentally strong person. Coz no matter what you do, if your mental state is fragile, you gonna break easily. I've been broken. But i woke up. I got back up, higher. Even stronger than before insyaAllah. And i thank God for giving me the strength to face His big trials after trials on me. He taught me well, that's for sure. I can feel that i am now a completely new person. It's amazing how you can transform so much in within a year. No more looking back on the past. What past, stays in the past. I'm going to live the present and looking up for the future. I can see it's getting bright. MasyaAllah. Thank you Allah. 


So, here are the 13 things mentally strong people don't do. Take note kids! 

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves 

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.


 2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power 

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond. 


3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change 

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt. 


4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control 

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude. 


5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

 Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy. 


6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks 

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action. 


7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

 Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.


 8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over 

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.


 9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success 

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success. 


10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure 

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.


 11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time 

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.


 12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

 Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits. 


13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results 

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time. 

Long but meaningful journey

I'm now tengah berehat kat one small hotel in KB.

Pukul 7 pagi tadi bergerak from cameron, around 12pm sampai kat KL Sentral, naik KLIA Ekspress pegi KLIA, terbang ke KB, around 4.30 selamat check in di hotel. Fuh.. What a long journey, kepala a bit sakit, but still i am thrilled to be here! Tak sabar to get in the class tomorroww!!

Hari isnin, 21hb baru ni dah kelam kabut nak mampos. We were scheduled to bertolak ke Cameron on the 21st. And i woke up on the Monday morning believing that it was still the 20th. Until dibah whatsapp me asking about my trip. Baru lah i looked up on the fon, saw the tarikh .. 21ST APRIL!! I haven't done any packing yet, anak2 masih tidur, aku masih belum mandi, macam2 menda masih belum dibuat.. uwaaaaaa! So bermula lah episod huru hara macam nk giler.. hahaa..sabor je la mak.

Alhamdulilah berjaya got myself ready by 12pm dan bertolak dengan selamat ke cameron highland untuk Program outreach. Believe it or not, this is my first time menjejakkan kaki ke Cameron. I love Cameron. Nyaman je. Nanti nak ajak hubby honeymoon kat sini la.. ala2 permulaan musim summer kat UK gitu.

Outreach di Cameron tak la se perfect di Senderut. This is their first time handling outreach program. Banyak yang kena improve. Hopefully dorang belajar dari kekurangan program kali ni. Next week, my last outreach for this year, will take place in Betau, Pahang. And then boleh concentrate on the cafe opening. Gotta do the Marketing part plak.. Wheee.. i love this part!

As for now, focus dulu dengan Seminar Intensif Dunia Pelaburan Saham "Strategies of Millionaire Investors" by Tuan Haji. Asri dan Dr.Nazri Khan hari esok. I'm ready to rock on the stock market.. wheeehuuuu! InsyaAllah. Moga Allah permudahkan urusan menuntut ilmu kali ni.

Masa zaman belajar kat UK dulu, ada duit lebih dalam 1000 pounds sterling plus duit simpanan lain sket, adalah la total dalam rm8000. Pegi la invest saham dalam 2 company. KNM dan Muhibah. Both jatuh lepas tu. Few years after, i gave up waiting. I sold all my saham. And last week, Tn.Haji Asri shared, saham Muhibah tengah meletop! Arrgh.. i have sold those saham in Muhibah. Tu la.. melabur tanpa ilmu, main ikut orang je, lesap macam tu je rm8000 aku. Tak kira lagi kerugian invest dalam Gold. hahaha.. harap2 dah berakhir la zaman kebodohan aku meng invest sana sini tanpa ilmu. Baik invest dalam mencari ilmu, kemudian make money out of the knowledge. Lagi selamat kan?

InsyaAllah, moga Allah pelihara setiap langkahku. Doakan saya kawan2.



I'm excited. Super happy! Nak rehat dulu.. Chow!

Thursday 17 April 2014

I'm sorry. I gotta do this.


Finally.. our own cheque book!! Peghak pulak rasa bila boleh sign cheque book sendiri.. muahahaha.. selama ni terima cheque je.. skang dah boleh issue cheque.. fenfeeling jutawan gitu.. ameen.

Now lebih pertengahan april dah.. both cafe and baking shop masih dalam renovation. Banyak pulak masalah timbul. Paip air pecah la. Tangki rosak la. Longkang tersumbat la. So kena settle one by one baru boleh proceed dengan kerja2 lain. Mintak2 la sempat mula by May ni. Permintaan untuk cookies Ria and kuih talam sangat tinggi. We need that baking house utk produce massively. Kesian customers yang dah order tapi kami tak boleh nak meet the demand sbb kekangan peralatan dan tempat. Tak sabar nak masuk  at least baking house dulu. The cafe can wait.

And! Actually aku dah start bercuti awal bulan April aritu. Mengumpul sepenuh tenaga dan kekuatan mental untuk call my boss, Puan Liyana, and beritahu aku nak amik cuti panjang. Aku hanya layak cuti tanpa gaji selama 3 bulan je, sebab aku baru kerja 4 tahun. So i told her, aku nak cuti setahun, tapi kalau tak boleh lepas, aku akan hantar surat resign la. And kak yana a bit sedih la dgn berita tu. I'm so sorry kak yana. Bukan sengaja nak buat macam ni, but i cannot tahan kerja kat pusat tu lagi. Rasa macam mayat hidup dan takde guna pada masyarakat. Kerja aku sibuk hanya during outreach, and during projek2 instrumen bagai. Selain dari tu, melanguk kat opis tak buat pape. Bosan dah keje macam ni selama 3 tahun. I need a new environment. A productive one. A healthy one. I need a more meaningful job. That gives me satisfaction and at the same time, benefit others as well. I can only find these in the business. So, i want to pursue this. Both my Shaklee business and my cafe business. Rasa alive sangat. And rasa macam orang baru. Not the same mandom person like before.

I love my colleagues at 3PK. But i don't love the system. The system has dissappoint me in so many ways that i can no longer tolerate. I feel useless. I feel demotivated sangat2 tak terkira demotivatednya.  I have lost interest in what i do. So, what am i waiting for? to pencen like this? no way. Better i go start something new NOW. Not later when i am already 35 or 40. That would be too late. I HAVE TO START NOW.

I'm sorry Kak Yana, I'm sorry Hana, I'm sorry Aisyah. I'm sorry 3PK. I'm sorry BPK. I'm sorry KPM. Saya mengundur diri dulu. Moga kalian terus tabah berjuang.

I'm a new Rozzairin. With a new mission. With a new spirit. With a new strength. I'm going to fly high. insyaAllah. Doakan saya ye kawan2. :)

Friday 4 April 2014

Panaderia it is.

We've been brain storming each other about which name to choose for our cafe. Too many suggestions. Banyak yang bagus2. Pening kepala nk decide. Until one day Abang Saperi suggested, why don't kita guna nama Panaderia je? And semua pun macam, aah la.. that sounds good to me. Lagi pun Panaderia dah established kat kuantan ni.

Apa hal la kita nak pening2 fikir nama macam2. So, Panaderia Cafe nama diberi. Ada lebih kurang sebulan lagi before the Opening. Harap2 boleh meet the dateline.

Meeting selang sehari. Di celah kesibukan semua orang berikan komitmen yang terbaik. Dugaan datang here and there, tapi insyaAllah our determination and passion are bigger than the obstacles. Tak sabar nak tgk progress cafe tu. Hopefully contractor dapat siapkan secepat mungkin. And we may proceed with the deco plak.


Lepaskan gelas air itu..

Alkisah segelas air….

Ustaz Zul memulakan kelas agamanya dengan mengangkat secawan air gelas berisi air di dalamnya.

“Kalian, agaknya berapa berat air di dalam gelas ini?”

“200 gram… 300 gram…. Setengah kilo,” jawab para pendengar kuliah mingguan beliau.

“Hebatlah kalian…. Ana sendiri tak tahu melainkan ana pergi timbang,” sindir Ustaz Zul.

“Tapi soalan ana yang sebenar ialah, apa yang akan berlaku jika ana mengangkat gelas ini sedemikian untuk beberapa minit…” tanya Ustaz Zul.

“Tak ada apa yang berlaku,” jawab hadirin kuliah.

“Ok. Apa yang akan berlaku sekiranya ana pegang atas sebegini untuk sejam?” tanya Ustaz Zul lagi sambil memegang gelas itu tinggi di atas.

“Lengan tangan ustaz akan lenguh,” jawab satu hadirin kuliah.

“Pandai. Betul tu. Jikalau ana nak teruskan mengangkat gelas ini untuk sehari….” Ustaz Zul mengusik hadirin lagi.

“Tangan ustaz akan kebas, otot lengan akan stress, mungkin lumpuh dan kena ke hospital doh ini ustaz. Pasti!” jawab seorang hadirin sambil tergelak.

“Bagus! Bagus! Tapi semasa ini berlaku, adakah berat gelas ini berubah?” tanya Ustaz Zul…

“Tak ustaz,” jawab hadirin.

“Jadi apa yang menyebabkan lengan sakit dan otot stress?” tanya Ustaz Zul lagi.

Semua hadirin terdiam… masing-masing tidak dapat menjawab….

Ustaz Zul tetiba bertanya lagi, “Jadi apakah yang perlu ana lakukan untuk hilangkan kesakitan tangan?”

“Letak saja gelas tu ustaz. Mudah dan selesai semua perkara,” jerit satu hadirin.

“Tepat sekali!!” jawab Ustaz Zul sambil menyambung…. 

“Begitu juga dengan masalah dalam kehidupan. Ambil untuk beberapa minit dalam kepala, rasanya ok tak sakit. Fikirkannya untuk masa yang lama, akan timbul pelbagai sakit seperti lengan tangan tadi. Pegang lagi masalah itu, ia akan lumpuhkan hidup enta semua. Enta tak akan dapat melakukan apa-apa.”

Wahai anakku,
Aku tidak menafikan bahawa ia adalah penting untuk memikirkan penyelesaian kepada cabaran dalam hidup, tapi ingatlah anak kesayanganku, yang lebih penting ialah belajarlah untuk meletakkan gelas air tersebut setiap hari sebelum tidur. 

Tapi, janganlah kamu terlalu memikirkannya sehingga mengganggu keseluruhan hidupmu. Letakkan gelas air itu sebelum tidur nescaya kamu tidak akan terasa stress, murung dan boleh cergas bangun di subuh besok untuk menghadapi cabaran sementara di dunia ini di samping mencari keredhaan Allah.

Senyum.