the series of unfortunate events...

Life has been very busy and very fortunate lately.. Alhamdulillah.. I can't thank God enough for that. Dah almost 3 bulan running bake shop, skang bulan ramadhan, kami tengah pulun siapkan order untuk raya cookies. Dapat order dari istana banyak sgt.. Alhamdulillah.. Alhamdulillah.. Cafe is still under renovation. Target to open by August. Tak tahu la tu sempat ke tak.. InsyaAllah harap yang terbaik. So far, So Good. Allah has been very kind to us. Thank you ya Allah :')

Tapi... on the other side of the world.. dunia mereka tak seindah duniaku. Palestin is being attacked brutally by Israhell jahanam. Setiap hari dalam Facebook there will be new pics of the injureds, the deads, the bloods, the tears of the small children.. Ya Allah, remuk redam hati ni. Marah. Sedih. Takut. Helpless. Semua ada. Dan pada 10 hari terakhir Ramadhan, serangan semakin rancak. Dan aku di sini, hanya mampu melihat, berdoa dan menyumbang sedikit dari rezeki ku buat mereka di sana. My tears running down everyday. Everytime i read the updates on facebook. It's so heartbreaking. I don't even have feelings nk sambut raya. Tak tergamak rasanya. Seeeing all those tears, betul2 menusuk hati. Tabahlah wahai saudaraku...

Itu baru di Palestin. Di Syria pun tak kurang kritikal. Rejim Basyar jahanam membunuh rakyatnya dengan kejam. No words can describes the pictures i've seen on facebook. Too cruel to digest.

Kali ni aku tekad nak boikot semampu yang boleh. NO MORE COKES, NO MORE PEPSI, NO MORE MILO. NO MORE MCD. NO MORE. NO MORE. NO MORE. Banyak lagi products yang kena boikot. Mesti boikot. Sebab aku taknak duit aku jadi penyumbang dalam kekejaman israel laknatullah.

Dalam pada kekecohan di Syria dan Palestin, tiba2 dapat pulak breaking news, MH17 was shot down in Ukraine. Another heart breaking news to bear. Ya Allah, naik flight has been my biggest fear for all this while. And this kind of news is not helping at all. Sedih. Marah dengan apa yang terjadi. Again, hanya doa yang mampu aku berikan. Moga keluarga mangsa yang terlibat sentiasa tabah dan redha. Aku doakan mereka kuat hadapi ujian ni. Sebab kalau aku diuji yang sama, aku tak tahu mcm mana aku akan hadapinya. Hanya Allah yg jadi pengubat.

Just now, i broke into tears reading a letter from a doctor dari Norway yang volunteer bertugas di Gaza. here's what he wrote :

Letter from Norwegian hero doctor who is in Gaza right now
Dr. Mads Gilbert MD PhD

Dearest friends -
The last night was extreme. The "ground invasion" of Gaza resulted in scores and carloads with maimed, torn apart, bleeding, shivering, dying - all sorts of injured Palestinians, all ages, all civilians, all innocent.
The heroes in the ambulances and in all of Gaza's hospitals are working 12-24hrs shifts, grey from fatigue and inhuman workloads (without payment all in Shifa for the last 4 months), they care, triage, try to understand the incomprehensible chaos of bodies, sizes, limbs, walking, not walking, breathing, not breathing, bleeding, not bleeding humans. HUMANS!
Now, once more treated like animals by "the most moral army in the world" (sic!).
My respect for the wounded is endless, in their contained determination in the midst of pain, agony and shock; my admiration for the staff and volunteers is endless, my closeness to the Palestinian "sumud" gives me strength, although in glimpses I just want to scream, hold someone tight, cry, smell the skin and hair of the warm child, covered in blood, protect ourselves in an endless embrace - but we cannot afford that, nor can they.
Ashy grey faces - Oh NO! not one more load of tens of maimed and bleeding, we still have lakes of blood on the floor in the ER, piles of dripping, blood-soaked bandages to clear out - oh - the cleaners, everywhere, swiftly shovelling the blood and discarded tissues, hair, clothes,cannulas - the leftovers from death - all taken away...to be prepared again, to be repeated all over. More then 100 cases came to Shifa last 24 hrs. enough for a large well trained hospital with everything, but here - almost nothing: electricity, water, disposables, drugs, OR-tables, instruments, monitors - all rusted and as if taken from museums of yesterdays hospitals.But they do not complain, these heroes. They get on with it, like warriors, head on, enormous resolute.t

And as I write these words to you, alone, on a bed, my tears flows, the warm but useless tears of pain and grief, of anger and fear. This is not happening!
An then, just now, the orchestra of the Israeli war-machine starts its gruesome symphony again, just now: salvos of artillery from the navy boats just down on the shores, the roaring F16, the sickening drones (Arabic 'Zennanis', the hummers), and the cluttering Apaches. So much made and paid in and by US.
Mr. Obama - do you have a heart?
I invite you - spend one night - just one night - with us in Shifa. Disguised as a cleaner, maybe.
I am convinced, 100%, it would change history.
Nobody with a heart AND power could ever walk away from a night in Shifa without being determined to end the slaughter of the Palestinian people.
But the heartless and merciless have done their calculations and planned another "dahyia" onslaught on Gaza.
The rivers of blood will keep running the coming night. I can hear they have tuned their instruments of death.
Please. Do what you can. This, THIS cannot continue.
Mads
Gaza, Occupied Palestine
Mads Gilbert MD PhD
Professor and Clinical Head
Clinic of Emergency Medicine
University Hospital of North Norway

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Raya kali ni paling takde semangat. All goes to the Palestinians and the Syrians who suffer in their homeland. Moga Allah berkati mereka. Kurniakan syahid buat mereka. Kuatkan mereka. Berikan kemenangan kepada mereka. Ameen.. 

13 Things mentally strong people don't do

If one day, my children will ever read my entries in this blog, i would want them to really take note on this particular entry. I want them to become a mentally strong person. Coz no matter what you do, if your mental state is fragile, you gonna break easily. I've been broken. But i woke up. I got back up, higher. Even stronger than before insyaAllah. And i thank God for giving me the strength to face His big trials after trials on me. He taught me well, that's for sure. I can feel that i am now a completely new person. It's amazing how you can transform so much in within a year. No more looking back on the past. What past, stays in the past. I'm going to live the present and looking up for the future. I can see it's getting bright. MasyaAllah. Thank you Allah. 

So, here are the 13 things mentally strong people don't do. Take note kids! 

1. They Don’t Waste Time Feeling Sorry for Themselves 

Mentally strong people don’t sit around feeling sorry about their circumstances or how others have treated them. Instead, they take responsibility for their role in life and understand that life isn’t always easy or fair.


 2. They Don’t Give Away Their Power 

They don’t allow others to control them, and they don’t give someone else power over them. They don’t say things like, “My boss makes me feel bad,” because they understand that they are in control over their own emotions and they have a choice in how they respond. 


3. They Don’t Shy Away from Change 

Mentally strong people don’t try to avoid change. Instead, they welcome positive change and are willing to be flexible. They understand that change is inevitable and believe in their abilities to adapt. 


4. They Don’t Waste Energy on Things They Can’t Control 

You won’t hear a mentally strong person complaining over lost luggage or traffic jams. Instead, they focus on what they can control in their lives. They recognize that sometimes, the only thing they can control is their attitude. 


5. They Don’t Worry About Pleasing Everyone

 Mentally strong people recognize that they don’t need to please everyone all the time. They’re not afraid to say no or speak up when necessary. They strive to be kind and fair, but can handle other people being upset if they didn’t make them happy. 


6. They Don’t Fear Taking Calculated Risks 

They don’t take reckless or foolish risks, but don’t mind taking calculated risks. Mentally strong people spend time weighing the risks and benefits before making a big decision, and they’re fully informed of the potential downsides before they take action. 


7. They Don’t Dwell on the Past

 Mentally strong people don’t waste time dwelling on the past and wishing things could be different. They acknowledge their past and can say what they’ve learned from it. However, they don’t constantly relive bad experiences or fantasize about the glory days. Instead, they live for the present and plan for the future.


 8. They Don’t Make the Same Mistakes Over and Over 

Mentally strong people accept responsibility for their behavior and learn from their past mistakes. As a result, they don’t keep repeating those mistakes over and over. Instead, they move on and make better decisions in the future.


 9. They Don’t Resent Other People’s Success 

Mentally strong people can appreciate and celebrate other people’s success in life. They don’t grow jealous or feel cheated when others surpass them. Instead, they recognize that success comes with hard work, and they are willing to work hard for their own chance at success. 


10. They Don’t Give Up After the First Failure 

Mentally strong people don’t view failure as a reason to give up. Instead, they use failure as an opportunity to grow and improve. They are willing to keep trying until they get it right.


 11. They Don’t Fear Alone Time 

Mentally strong people can tolerate being alone and they don’t fear silence. They aren’t afraid to be alone with their thoughts and they can use downtime to be productive. They enjoy their own company and aren’t dependent on others for companionship and entertainment all the time but instead can be happy alone.


 12. They Don’t Feel the World Owes Them Anything

 Mentally strong people don’t feel entitled to things in life. They weren’t born with a mentality that others would take care of them or that the world must give them something. Instead, they look for opportunities based on their own merits. 


13. They Don’t Expect Immediate Results 

Whether they are working on improving their health or getting a new business off the ground, mentally strong people don’t expect immediate results. Instead, they apply their skills and time to the best of their ability and understand that real change takes time. 

Long but meaningful journey

I'm now tengah berehat kat one small hotel in KB.

Pukul 7 pagi tadi bergerak from cameron, around 12pm sampai kat KL Sentral, naik KLIA Ekspress pegi KLIA, terbang ke KB, around 4.30 selamat check in di hotel. Fuh.. What a long journey, kepala a bit sakit, but still i am thrilled to be here! Tak sabar to get in the class tomorroww!!

Hari isnin, 21hb baru ni dah kelam kabut nak mampos. We were scheduled to bertolak ke Cameron on the 21st. And i woke up on the Monday morning believing that it was still the 20th. Until dibah whatsapp me asking about my trip. Baru lah i looked up on the fon, saw the tarikh .. 21ST APRIL!! I haven't done any packing yet, anak2 masih tidur, aku masih belum mandi, macam2 menda masih belum dibuat.. uwaaaaaa! So bermula lah episod huru hara macam nk giler.. hahaa..sabor je la mak.

Alhamdulilah berjaya got myself ready by 12pm dan bertolak dengan selamat ke cameron highland untuk Program outreach. Believe it or not, this is my first time menjejakkan kaki ke Cameron. I love Cameron. Nyaman je. Nanti nak ajak hubby honeymoon kat sini la.. ala2 permulaan musim summer kat UK gitu.

Outreach di Cameron tak la se perfect di Senderut. This is their first time handling outreach program. Banyak yang kena improve. Hopefully dorang belajar dari kekurangan program kali ni. Next week, my last outreach for this year, will take place in Betau, Pahang. And then boleh concentrate on the cafe opening. Gotta do the Marketing part plak.. Wheee.. i love this part!

As for now, focus dulu dengan Seminar Intensif Dunia Pelaburan Saham "Strategies of Millionaire Investors" by Tuan Haji. Asri dan Dr.Nazri Khan hari esok. I'm ready to rock on the stock market.. wheeehuuuu! InsyaAllah. Moga Allah permudahkan urusan menuntut ilmu kali ni.

Masa zaman belajar kat UK dulu, ada duit lebih dalam 1000 pounds sterling plus duit simpanan lain sket, adalah la total dalam rm8000. Pegi la invest saham dalam 2 company. KNM dan Muhibah. Both jatuh lepas tu. Few years after, i gave up waiting. I sold all my saham. And last week, Tn.Haji Asri shared, saham Muhibah tengah meletop! Arrgh.. i have sold those saham in Muhibah. Tu la.. melabur tanpa ilmu, main ikut orang je, lesap macam tu je rm8000 aku. Tak kira lagi kerugian invest dalam Gold. hahaha.. harap2 dah berakhir la zaman kebodohan aku meng invest sana sini tanpa ilmu. Baik invest dalam mencari ilmu, kemudian make money out of the knowledge. Lagi selamat kan?

InsyaAllah, moga Allah pelihara setiap langkahku. Doakan saya kawan2.

I'm excited. Super happy! Nak rehat dulu.. Chow!

I'm sorry. I gotta do this.

Finally.. our own cheque book!! Peghak pulak rasa bila boleh sign cheque book sendiri.. muahahaha.. selama ni terima cheque je.. skang dah boleh issue cheque.. fenfeeling jutawan gitu.. ameen.

Now lebih pertengahan april dah.. both cafe and baking shop masih dalam renovation. Banyak pulak masalah timbul. Paip air pecah la. Tangki rosak la. Longkang tersumbat la. So kena settle one by one baru boleh proceed dengan kerja2 lain. Mintak2 la sempat mula by May ni. Permintaan untuk cookies Ria and kuih talam sangat tinggi. We need that baking house utk produce massively. Kesian customers yang dah order tapi kami tak boleh nak meet the demand sbb kekangan peralatan dan tempat. Tak sabar nak masuk  at least baking house dulu. The cafe can wait.

And! Actually aku dah start bercuti awal bulan April aritu. Mengumpul sepenuh tenaga dan kekuatan mental untuk call my boss, Puan Liyana, and beritahu aku nak amik cuti panjang. Aku hanya layak cuti tanpa gaji selama 3 bulan je, sebab aku baru kerja 4 tahun. So i told her, aku nak cuti setahun, tapi kalau tak boleh lepas, aku akan hantar surat resign la. And kak yana a bit sedih la dgn berita tu. I'm so sorry kak yana. Bukan sengaja nak buat macam ni, but i cannot tahan kerja kat pusat tu lagi. Rasa macam mayat hidup dan takde guna pada masyarakat. Kerja aku sibuk hanya during outreach, and during projek2 instrumen bagai. Selain dari tu, melanguk kat opis tak buat pape. Bosan dah keje macam ni selama 3 tahun. I need a new environment. A productive one. A healthy one. I need a more meaningful job. That gives me satisfaction and at the same time, benefit others as well. I can only find these in the business. So, i want to pursue this. Both my Shaklee business and my cafe business. Rasa alive sangat. And rasa macam orang baru. Not the same mandom person like before.

I love my colleagues at 3PK. But i don't love the system. The system has dissappoint me in so many ways that i can no longer tolerate. I feel useless. I feel demotivated sangat2 tak terkira demotivatednya.  I have lost interest in what i do. So, what am i waiting for? to pencen like this? no way. Better i go start something new NOW. Not later when i am already 35 or 40. That would be too late. I HAVE TO START NOW.

I'm sorry Kak Yana, I'm sorry Hana, I'm sorry Aisyah. I'm sorry 3PK. I'm sorry BPK. I'm sorry KPM. Saya mengundur diri dulu. Moga kalian terus tabah berjuang.

I'm a new Rozzairin. With a new mission. With a new spirit. With a new strength. I'm going to fly high. insyaAllah. Doakan saya ye kawan2. :)

Panaderia it is.

We've been brain storming each other about which name to choose for our cafe. Too many suggestions. Banyak yang bagus2. Pening kepala nk decide. Until one day Abang Saperi suggested, why don't kita guna nama Panaderia je? And semua pun macam, aah la.. that sounds good to me. Lagi pun Panaderia dah established kat kuantan ni.

Apa hal la kita nak pening2 fikir nama macam2. So, Panaderia Cafe nama diberi. Ada lebih kurang sebulan lagi before the Opening. Harap2 boleh meet the dateline.

Meeting selang sehari. Di celah kesibukan semua orang berikan komitmen yang terbaik. Dugaan datang here and there, tapi insyaAllah our determination and passion are bigger than the obstacles. Tak sabar nak tgk progress cafe tu. Hopefully contractor dapat siapkan secepat mungkin. And we may proceed with the deco plak.

Lepaskan gelas air itu..

Alkisah segelas air….

Ustaz Zul memulakan kelas agamanya dengan mengangkat secawan air gelas berisi air di dalamnya.

“Kalian, agaknya berapa berat air di dalam gelas ini?”

“200 gram… 300 gram…. Setengah kilo,” jawab para pendengar kuliah mingguan beliau.

“Hebatlah kalian…. Ana sendiri tak tahu melainkan ana pergi timbang,” sindir Ustaz Zul.

“Tapi soalan ana yang sebenar ialah, apa yang akan berlaku jika ana mengangkat gelas ini sedemikian untuk beberapa minit…” tanya Ustaz Zul.

“Tak ada apa yang berlaku,” jawab hadirin kuliah.

“Ok. Apa yang akan berlaku sekiranya ana pegang atas sebegini untuk sejam?” tanya Ustaz Zul lagi sambil memegang gelas itu tinggi di atas.

“Lengan tangan ustaz akan lenguh,” jawab satu hadirin kuliah.

“Pandai. Betul tu. Jikalau ana nak teruskan mengangkat gelas ini untuk sehari….” Ustaz Zul mengusik hadirin lagi.

“Tangan ustaz akan kebas, otot lengan akan stress, mungkin lumpuh dan kena ke hospital doh ini ustaz. Pasti!” jawab seorang hadirin sambil tergelak.

“Bagus! Bagus! Tapi semasa ini berlaku, adakah berat gelas ini berubah?” tanya Ustaz Zul…

“Tak ustaz,” jawab hadirin.

“Jadi apa yang menyebabkan lengan sakit dan otot stress?” tanya Ustaz Zul lagi.

Semua hadirin terdiam… masing-masing tidak dapat menjawab….

Ustaz Zul tetiba bertanya lagi, “Jadi apakah yang perlu ana lakukan untuk hilangkan kesakitan tangan?”

“Letak saja gelas tu ustaz. Mudah dan selesai semua perkara,” jerit satu hadirin.

“Tepat sekali!!” jawab Ustaz Zul sambil menyambung…. 

“Begitu juga dengan masalah dalam kehidupan. Ambil untuk beberapa minit dalam kepala, rasanya ok tak sakit. Fikirkannya untuk masa yang lama, akan timbul pelbagai sakit seperti lengan tangan tadi. Pegang lagi masalah itu, ia akan lumpuhkan hidup enta semua. Enta tak akan dapat melakukan apa-apa.”

Wahai anakku,
Aku tidak menafikan bahawa ia adalah penting untuk memikirkan penyelesaian kepada cabaran dalam hidup, tapi ingatlah anak kesayanganku, yang lebih penting ialah belajarlah untuk meletakkan gelas air tersebut setiap hari sebelum tidur. 

Tapi, janganlah kamu terlalu memikirkannya sehingga mengganggu keseluruhan hidupmu. Letakkan gelas air itu sebelum tidur nescaya kamu tidak akan terasa stress, murung dan boleh cergas bangun di subuh besok untuk menghadapi cabaran sementara di dunia ini di samping mencari keredhaan Allah.

Senyum.

RiaRose

Last week, me, Ria, Kak Lily, Kak Cha, Abg saperi and Abg Peja went to register our company at SSM. After brainstorming, we decided to name our company as RiaRose Enterprise. Gabungan The Panaderia and 3Roses.

Idea asal adalah nak buat dessert station je. Since Ria dah established with her bakery products and us with our kuih talam. Tapi after dah discussed, we decided to add menu berat jugak since kat situ area ofis and politeknik and Matta Academy. Tapi simple2 je la. Lagipun kedai kami ni berkonsepkan cafe. 

Last week have been very hectic. Register SSM, tgk keadaan kedai, meeting with the contractor to do some renovation. And this week the tugas continues.. nak beli barang, nak design logo, nak tempah signboard, nak deco2. Nama kedai masih perlu dirahsiakan.. surprise! hehe.. RiaRose is just the company name, nama kedai belum decided yet. Pening kepala woiii... 

Pasni, there are gonna be lotsss of meetings and discussions before the opening. Target nak launch on the 5th of May. Moga Allah permudahkan. Ameen..

DAO kata FAST ACTION FAST RESULT. Ni memang fast betul la ni. Redah je. Moga ianya bukan redahan yang membuta tuli.. haha.. feeling excited!!!  Doakan kami yer :)

Turning Point.

TURNING POINT

Talking about a turning point.  Aku rasa setiap orang ada turning point masing2.

Turning point where you started to where tudung.

Turning point where you started to solat. Cakap pasal solat, aku masih ingat turning point aku mula bersolat. Up till darjah 5, aku tak solat langsung. Tak tahu pun macam mana nk solat. Sehingga lah pada satu petang, aku panggil kawan aku nk ajak main, tiba2 mak dia ckp dia tgh solat, and mak dia tanya aku, kakak tak solat ke? Masa tu aku malu sangat2.. tak tahu kenapa rasa macam nak balik, sembam muka kat bantal and menangis. Cewaaah.. drama giler..haha.. Sebab aku rasa aku hina sgt sebab tak solat. Malam tu, terus aku bitau nenek aku, aku nk solat. And nenek aku ajak aku solat sama2 ngan dia. Dia baca kuat2 supaya aku dgr setiap bacaan dia. Amazingly aku tahu baca semua bacaan tu, cuma selama ni tak tau nk kena baca kt mana. Mulai dari hari tu, aku pun bersolat. Alhamdulillah..

Kalau di pikirkan balik, peristiwa memalukan tu (negatif) memang tak best. Tapi disebabkan peristiwa tu lah aku pandai solat (positif). Nampak tak hikmahnya? 

Ada orang, turning point dia berhenti merokok adalah apabila satu hari dia jatuh sakit, and tiap kali cuba merokok dia muntah, so disebabkan dia jatuh sakit (Negatif), dia pun berhenti merokok (Positif). Ni real event ni. Terjadi pada ayah tiri aku. Haha.. 

Aku pernah kerugian berpuluh ribu ringgit sebab melabur tanpa ilmu. Aku juga pernah rugi beribu ringgit membuat perniagaan tanpa ilmu (negative). Dan disebabkan oleh kegagalan itu, aku belajar, sebelum bisnes, kena ada ilmu. Tak boleh tergesa2. Kaji baik buruk. And Alhamdulillah bisnes aku yang satu ni, which is Shaklee semakin berkembang (positif). And another big project is coming. Syukur. 

Ada orang tu, tak pernah solat taubat, sering merasa diri hebat, berbangga dengan kelebihan yang ada pada dirinya, tiba-tiba di uji dengan satu musibah yang dahsyat, yang menguji hati dan perasaan(negative), dan disebabkan peristiwa sedih itu, dia kembali muhasabah diri, peristiwa itu ialah turning point dalam hidupnya, di mana dia buat pertama kalinya melakukan solat taubat. Dan membuang jauh2 rasa bangga diri itu. Berusaha hidup sebagai seorang mukmin yang lebih baik, jauh lebih baik. Dari sebelumnya (Positive).

Ada orang tu, sering panas baran. Tidak pandai bertolak ansur, tidak pandai menjaga perasaan orang, tidak pandai hargai pengorbanan orang, sentiasa ingat dirinya betul,  dan Allah menghantar musibah besar buatnya, yang buat dia terduduk dan terpana. Putus asa. Murung dan merana  (Negative). Tapi disebabkan peristiwa itu, dia sedar akan dirinya yg terlampau negative selama ini. Dia cuba menjadi seorang yang positif dan lebih waras. Rational sebelum marah2. Sentiasa terbuka untuk mencari ilmu agar dirinya boleh memberi makna dalam kehidupan orang . Agar dia boleh memberi bahagia dalam hidup orang. Agar dia kembali berpijak di bumi yang nyata. Apa yang dia ada, bukan miliknya. Allah boleh tarik bila2 masa.Dia sedar semua hakikat ini (positif), disebabkan peristiwa yg dukacita itu. Peristiwa itu menjadi turning point dalam hidupnya.

Kebiasaannya, turning point ni adalah sesuatu perkara yang pada mata kasar kita adalah sesuatu yg negative, yg mendatangkan kesedihan. Yang melukakan hati. Tapi selepas seketika, kita mula sedar, perkara hitam itulah yang sering membawa kita kembali ke pangkal jalan. Jika takde turning point tu, tak mungkin kita macam ni skang. Tak mungkin orang yang jahat itu, akan menjadi baik, jika tiada sesuatu peristiwa yg menjadi turning point.

So, turning point ni baik ke tak? Haha.. manusia hanya akan belajar, bila diberi pengajaran, dan pengajaran yang paling berkesan adalah pengajaran yang perit.

Itulah aturan kehidupan. Yang Allah dah tetapkan. Syukur kerana kau diberi turning point. Jatuh tersungkur, deep beneath d ocean, but you can always bounce back, and make sure you bounce back higher,so you will become greater than before. You will be a lot bahagia than before. Because now you know better. Now you are wiser. 

Ada aku terbaca somewhere, "Jika Allah mencampakkan kamu dengan tanganNya yg satu, Dia akan menyambutmu dengan tanganNya yang lain". Allah tu baik kan? Dia bagi kita ujian, ibarat nak mati, tonggang langgang hidup. dan Dia selamatkan kita pulak. Kalau kita memilih untuk diselamatkan la.

Semalam sempat tgk rancangan apa ntah nama dia, dia buat coverage tentang kehidupan Wardina. One thing yang dia sebut aku ingat sampai skang ni, dia kata lebih kurang macam ni la.. Dalam hidup berumah tangga, mesti selalu perbetulkan niat kita kahwin, adalah kerana Allah. Kalau macam ni kita niat dan fikir, insyaAllah semua masalah dpt selesai. Kalau gaduh dengan suami rasa macam tak larat dah nk hidup dengan dia, ingatlah, kita buat semua ni kerana Allah. Nak dpt ganjaran syurganya. Kalau takde dia, mungkin kita tak bau syurga pun. So, go back to the basic. Buat sesuatu kerana Allah. Hadapi ujian dengan pasangan kerana Allah. Bersabar dan redha kerana Allah.

Jom betulkan niat kita. :)

We Are a Great Trainer!

Alhamdulillah, last Saturday, 8hb March, me and Ria berjaya jugak akhirnya conducted our first seminar together. Never in my entire life, aku imagine myself conducting a seminar, my own seminar. But lepas pergi program Train The Trainer tu, rasa macam rugi la kalau tak buat, dah bayar mahal2 kan, takkan nak sia2kan je ilmu yang dah belajar tu. 

So, walau di tengah kesibukan yang amat, aku curi jugak masa untuk organize this seminar, with Ria as the  main speaker. The title of the seminar was "Costing Class for Bakers". Aku tak punya banyak masa untuk buat marketing yang di ajar. Tak sempat. Mampu promote kat FB dan melalui ETSI sms marketing tools je. Banners and flyers tak sempat nak implement. But Alhamdulillah got a few participants yang memang betul2 eager nak belajar ilmu costing ni. 

So, bertempat di Rocana Hotel, Kuantan, kami pun memulakan class.. haha.. I was the one yang conduct bahagian introduction and penutup. The rest tu Ria yang handle.

Alhamdulillah, syukur sangat2 sebab kelas tu aku boleh consider successful la. We created a support group kat fb so that boleh keep in touch and share dengan dorang sikit ilmu yang kami cedok tentang bisnes ni. If they have any problems pun boleh share sesama kita. 

I'm glad that everyone was happy at the end of the seminar. 

Aku macam addicted plak nak jadi speaker ni. Nampak kat group Train The Trainer Dr.Azizan Osman, ramai yang offer siapa yang nk jadi speaker utk program dorang, ada yang utk budak2 skolah. Aku rasa nak join sangat2!!! Tapi kekangan masa menghalang untuk buat semua tu. Aku perlu fokus pada Shaklee dulu buat masa sekarang. And kena fokus jugak pada perkembangan 3Roses Talam, perniagaan kami adik beradik insyaAllah. Impian untuk jadi speaker tu kena simpan dulu, bila dah jadi Master Coordinator dalam Shaklee, baru boleh fokus pada benda lain plak insyaAllah. 

Being a trainer is super best perasaan tu. Especially bila kita tahu, kita dah membantu orang lain. Macam dalam costing class tu, ramai rupanya yang berniaga tapi tak tahu cara kira costing. Which is ada antara mereka yg selama ni ter under-charged customer dorang. Menyebabkan dorang rugi dalam perniagaan. 

So bila dapat tolong org macam ni keluar dari kepompong masalah dorang, it feels so great you know. I'm craving for more.. haha.. but sabar dulu. Rileks dulu. I need time to sort things out. Sebab right now, i have millions things i wanna do. Tp aku kena belajar fokus. Fokus satu2.

Tak sabar nak stabil with Shaklee (Masters Coordinator), and pursue my other dreamsssss!!  Go Rynn!! You are a Great Leader. You are a Great Trainer! 

Ria, I just loveeeee the experience we gained during the seminar. Thank you for making it possible for us. Tak percaya kan? Kita jadi trainer? Hahhaaha.. this is just the beginning. You should go further in this carrier Ria. It helps a lot of people. You add value in their life and businesses. Nanti Allah akan add even more value in yours. I will always be praying for your success. Chayyuk2!!!

My Beloved Adibah

Dibah just turned 28 today. We've been friends since we were 18. Dah 10 years.. Wohohoho!

Happy Birthday My Dear Adibah! This is your first birthday as a wife, right? Rahman, you better treat her special ok!

What is so special about Dibah? I don't know. She is my bestfriend. Dunia akhirat insyaAllah. Someone who is always there when i'm in need. Someone who will scold me if she thinks i'm doing wrong.

Someone i can share all my problems with. Someone i want to share my happines with. She's among the first to know that i'm pregnant. haha.. And she'll also be the first to know when i'm in trouble. That's how special she is to me.

She's the one who was willing to spend a month with me in Bangor, just to find out how would it feels like to live in Bangor (Sebab aku slalu complaint that i was lonely). Sweet kan?

She kept me sane when i was losing my sanity. She always know what to say. She makes me think rationally, not emotionally. Someone worth keeping i would say.

We will always be friends, insyaAllah. Till Jannah. Love you Cik Debot! 

P/s: Aku ada misi untuk kita berdua, jom jadi tembam, macam zaman2 ko bertapa kat Bangor dulu. Pipi tembam mekar. Comel je kita masa tu. Let's be comel again!

The Power of Doa (Law of Attraction)

From My Awesome Mentor....
[Adakah anda rajin berdoa? Doa pun ada strategi]Salam semua. Ya! Itulah soalan saya kepada anda hari ini. Adakah anda rajin berdoa? Persoalan yang saya mahu tanya sebelumnya adalah, Adakah anda yakin yang anda mempunyai keinginan atau kemahuan di atas doa-doa anda?

Maksud saya begini, most people berdoa kerana ala-ala dah biasa lepas solat berdoa dan ramai yang berdoa samada bahasa arab yang mereka sendiri kurang fahami apa yang didoakan atau agak-agak sahaja, atau mereka hanya meng "amin" kan doa orang lain, atau mereka doa ala-kadar tanpa di sertai dengan kesungguhan bukan sekadar di mulut tetapi dengan hati. Lagi teruk adalah yang tidak suka berdoa atau tidak pernah berdoa.

The Power of DOA

Ini adalah salah satu formula kejayaan yang saya kongsikan di dalam siri-siri seminar saya. Kekuatan & kuasa yang Allah swt berikan kepada kita untuk berdoa.

Doa dan adab berdoa di dalam Islam secara saintifiknya adalah apa yang Mat Salleh heboh-hebohkan katakan tentang "The Law of Attraction" yang banyak di sebut di dalam movie "The Secret" atau bukunya. Perbezaannya adalah kefahaman kita dan keyakinan kita bila berdoa mestilah dengan beberapa kefahaman asas yang penting ini:-

1- Memahami betapa Allah swt yang Maha Menguasai langit dan bumi serta seluruh takluNya amatlah menyukai hambaNya berdoa dan memohon merintih rintih kepadaNya. Berdoa adalah satu keadaan yang menunjukkan yang kita mengakui dan menyaksikan betapa Maha HebatNya Allah swt dan Maha AgungNya Dia menjadi tempat kita mengadu dan merayu.

2- Anda pernah mendengar ayat hadia menyebut yang bermaksud, "Tuhan mengikut sangkaan hambaNya". Secara asasnya ia bermaksud apa yang kita "SANGKAKAN" atau "FIKIRKAN" adalah menjadi sesuatu yang Allah swt berikan atau makbulkan. Bahasa mudah. apa yang kita sangka itu adalah DOA. Samada sangkaan baik atau buruk, ia boleh menjadi satu DOA. Di dalam Bahasa inggerisnya, ini adalah prinsip Law Of Expectation. Apa yang kita sangka atau jangkakan itu boleh menjadi satu doa kepadaNya. Bila kita berdoa. sangat penting kita sertai dengan sangkaan dan jangkaan bahawa apa yang kita minta Insha Allah DIA akan memakbulkan. Keyakinan ini penting kerana secara sains psikologinya, orang yang yakin akan lebih mudah dapat atau lakukan apa yang dia yakini. Jadi, sangat penting bila kita berdoa, kita mesti yakin yang DIA Maha Memberikan apa yang kita hajati.

3- Faham apa yang di doakan. Ini juga faktor penting di dalam proses DOA. Ramai orang tidak faham atau tidak tahu apa butir-butir sebenar doa mereka. Gunakan bahasa Melayu jika tidak mahir atau belum menguasai bahasa Arab.

4- Konsisten kandungan doanya. Ya, ini adalah satu lagi perkara penting di dalam berdoa. Kandungnya adalah bagus sama atau konsisten. Maksudnya adalah apa yang diminta itu ada perkara yang kita sentiasa minta setiap kali kita berdoa dan ada yang mungkin tambahan mengikut hajat ketika itu.

5- Sentiasa mulakan dengan senarai puji-pujian kepada Yang Maha Kuasa dan of course selawat dan salam ke atas kekasihNya Rasulullah saw. Kita puji kekasihNya, DIA akan semakin kasih kepada kita.

6- Kemudian senaraikan apa yang kita syukurkan samada dalam bahasa Arab atau bahasa Melayu. Sebut dan lafazkan. Contohnya, Ya Allah, Aku bersyukur di atas nikmat nafas pagi ini Ya Allah. Aku bersyukur di atas nikmat Akal yang bagus, nikmat mata, telinga, hidung. mulut, lidah dan .......... Bagus jika senarai apa yang kita syukurkan itu ada 5-10 perkara yang kita syukurkan.

7- Senaraikan doa atau hajat yang kita sungguh-sungguh ingin mohon dan kemudian doa setiap masa beberapa kali sehari doa yang sama.

8- Penghayatan dan jiwa doa diperlukan. Jika kita rasa apa yang kita mohon adalah perkara yang sangat sangat sangat sangat penting kepada kita atau keluarga kita, pastinya kita boleh menghayatinya dan menangis ketika memohon kepadaNya.

9- Doa khusus- Doa khusus ada banyak waktu yang terbaik, selepas wudhu', ketika sujud yang terakhir dalam solat, selepas solat samada solat wajib atau yang sunat. Pendek kata, mohonlah berulang ulang kali kerana itulah The Power of Repetition. Lebih banyak kita "tergila-gilakan" apa yang kita mahukan, Insha Allah DIA akan makbulkan dengan lebih pantas mudah-mudahan.

10- "Doa" yang berlaku setiap masa. Doa sebenarnya juga berlaku secara tidak khusus atau langsung setiap masa. Bila kita berfikir, bercakap, apa yang kita rasakan di dalam hati dan perbuatan kita juga adalah DOA. Hati-hati kerana Allah swt dan malaikat sentiasa take things seriously. Maksudnya setiap masa, apa sahaja perbuatan, ucapan kita adalah direkodkan dan sentiasa mereka mahu menunaikannya, samada baik atau buruk, positif atau negatif. Sebab itu saya selalu berpesan, kita adalah umpama Magnet yang Tuhan berikan kita janji yang DIA akan beri ikut apa yang kita sangkakan. Magnetlah perkara yang baik-baik setiap hari samada melakui percakapan, fikiran dan sangkaan, perbuatan dan dalam pergaulan serta kehidupan. Kurangkan mencarut, memaki hamun, mengumpat, memfitnah, bercakap sia-sia, bercakap atau komen tentang sesuatu yang kita tidak tahu, apa yang kita share atau komen di Facebook atau media sosial atau secara on-line kerana itu semua akan menjadi "DOA" buat diri kita.

Akhir kalam. Jangan lupa tutup doa dengan selawat dan salam ke atas kekasihNya junjungan besar Rasulullah saw dan ahli keluarganya.

Most people yang berjaya yang saya kenali adalah mereka yang sangat tinggi keyakinan mereka kepada diri dan kepada kekuasaan Tuhan. Mereka yakin apa yang mereka sebutkan Insha Allah akan menjadi atau dimakbulkan.

When we believe of what we belief, the belief comes true! - Artikel ini ditulis oleh ‪#‎DrAzizanOsman‬ untuk perkongsian semua.
 Insha Allah.

An Old Song that I just learned about the meaningful lyrics *tears running*

FLYING WITHOUT WINGS

[Shane:]
Everybody's looking for a something
One thing that makes it all complete
You'll find it in the strangest places
Places you never knew it could be

Some find it in the face of their children
Some find it in their lover's eyes
Who can deny the joy it brings
When you've found that special thing
You're flying without wings

[Mark:]
Some find it sharing every morning
Some in their solitary lives
You'll find it in the words of others
A simple line can make you laugh or cry

You'll find it in the deepest friendship
The kind you cherish all your life
And when you know how much it means
You've found that special thing
You're flying without wings

So, impossible as it may seem
You've got to fight for every dream
‘Cause who's to know which one you let go
Would have made you complete

[Shane:]
Well, for me it's waking up beside you
To watch the sunrise on your face
To know that I can say I love you
At any given time or place
[Mark:]
It's little things that only I know
Those are the things that make you mine
And it's like flying without wings
‘Cause you're my special thing
I'm flying without wings

[Shane:]
And you're the place my life begins
And you'll be where it ends

[Mark:]
I'm flying without wings
And that's the joy you bring
I'm flying without wings

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i've been listening to this song since i was kanak2 riang lagi. But i never really faham maksud dia. Only recently masa kat TTT program, setiap hari akan diberi lagu baru utk ramai2 nyanyi. Salah satu ialah lagu ni. Baru aku hayati dan sedar, the lyrics owh so beautiful. I can't help but crying throughout the song. 

Everybody is looking for a something. For me, I have found mine. I have found that something in so many places. In my beautiful angels, in my love, n my mom, in my business and my passions, my bestest friendsss, and paling penting, i've found it in Allah. Owh... 10 kali dengar pun akan nangis.. so inspiring. I love them all :)

PMS IS KILLING ME.

Is this PMS thingy for real? Or do we women just take it as an excuse? I tried to google about it this morning. I just googled PMS image. Then, thousands of images appeared. It's so scary of how they potray women with PMS. Dah macam monster je. huhu..

And i found this image saying "My fear is that PMS doesn't exist and this is my real personality". Actually dari semalam lagi aku tertanya, lepas aku naik hantu smalam, bila dah tenang, datang terfikir plak.. During PMS kan, adakah kita menjadi diri kita sendiri? selama ni kita boleh control and berlakon, kita ada kelebihan tuk bersabar, tapi bila PMS datang, kita tak boleh sorok diri kita yang sebenar, dan itulah diri kita kalau nak tahu.

 ATAU....

Adakah bila PMS menyerang, we are not ourselves anymore. Selama ni kita jadi diri kita yang sebenar, baik je, sabar je, tapi once PMS datang that's it, you are losing control of yourself and suddenly kita tak jadi diri kita sendiri and instead kita bertukar jadi makhluk super horror. So which one?

During PMS, is that the real you, OR is that someone you are not? Only for that particular period of time. Mana satu?

Aku just harap during PMS, we are becoming someone we are not. I really hope that this is not the real me. I don't want to be that person. Full of anger. Full of frustration. Full of sadness. No, i really hope that's not who i really am. I just hope this pms thingy is turning me into someone else, not myself. And when it's gone, i can go back to my real person. The real me.

Bila PMS menyerang, mulut aku mcam bertih jagung. I can talk pot pet pot pet non stop! and end up feeling bad sebab i've said things yang unnecessary and hurt people around me. Dah bape juta kali aku pesan kat diri sendiri, kalau marah, stop talking. Jangan berckp. Coz i know dgn mulut aku yang macam %$#& ni, for sure akan sakitkan hati orang and buat orang terluka. Sometimes i managed to diam kejap je, once aku bukak mulut that's it. There's no turning back. You are finished. huhu.. aku jumpa tadi satu article, dia ckp secara purata pompuan akan membebel lebih kurang 20 minit sehari, tapi during PMS, it can goes up to 45 mins. That is like double the time! 

Then aku google lagi dan lagi, apa yang aku baca memang sama je. Kesian para lelaki. Kena menghadapi kegilaan perempuan setiap bulan. I hate to blame PMS for all this. Tapi it's true, kenapa hati ni membuak lain macam. You can't contain it. The feeling macam nk burst and explode. Jantung akan berdenyut laju and kemarahan akan membara dan membara. Orang yang tak pernah rasa takkan paham. You know it's just pms. Aku pesan kat diri sendiri, rynn, ko tengah pms ni, so sabar ye sayang. NOpe! Dia takkan dengar dah. Masa tu dia tak heran dah nak jadi apa pun jadi la. PMS ke menatang apa ke, she don't care! Janji dia boleh mengamuk. Haa.. macam tu. gila kan? Shit la.. memang gila! Kenapa wei kenapa? 

Owh PMS, pulangkan balik kewarasan aku. Pulangkan balik kesabaran aku. Pulangkan. Dan nyah ko jauh2. Jangan porak-perandakan hidup aku. SObssss...Habis aura positif aku... menciknya!!!

Maafkan mereka demi Rasulullah SAW

There's something i just learned about forgiveness that i've never heard before. It is actually macam tips la. It helps you to forgive more easy and move on. My awesome mentor yang ajar. 

Kenapa kita kena maafkan orang?

Sebab kita nak Rasulullah SAW gembira. Macam mana tu? 

Sebab  Rasulullah SAW mengharapkan semua umat baginda dapat masuk ke syurga. Kalau lah kerana kita tak memaafkan dosa orang tu, dan orang tu masuk ke neraka sebab tu, kita adalah punca dia masuk neraka. Bila dia masuk neraka, Rasulullah SAW akan bersedih. Sebab orang tu juga adalah umatnya. Maka, dalam usaha kita nak gembirakan hati Rasulullah SAW, dan taknak jadi penyebab Baginda berduka cita, maka, the least that we can do is memaafkan kesalahan orang pada kita. Moga2 dia takkan masuk ke neraka disebabkan dosa dia pada kita. 

Aku tak pernah fikir macam ni before. Holding a grudge is what i do best! I know it's killing me from inside. But i don't know why did i hang on to it. I used to always focus on apa yang tak best. Apa yang sakit hati. Kept on thinking about it. Lipat gandakan rasa tak best tu. Then i blame other people. I ended up being miserable. It didn't do me any good pun. What a waste of time je. 

The power of focus. When things feel like they're not working out, Focus on what's working right. Focus on what makes you feel good, not what brings you down. 

Learning and keep on learning. Cause i'm not perfect. But trying to be as perfect as possible. :)

Hajah Madu.

Saje nak share satu cerita pasal sorang akak ni. Aku kenal masa kat program Train The Trainer (TTT) Dr. Azizan last week. Akak ni sort of berjaya menukar perspektif aku, well, before ni pun banyak kali dah told myself about this, and yeah, still learning to look at it from a different angle.

Sepanjang program tu, dari hari pertama lagi, sorang akak ni memang famous dlm program tu. Selalu disebut2 oleh DAO dan Jerry. Dia berjubah lengkap berpurdah. And they call it pakar madu. What's so special about her? I kept wondering..

Suddenly ditakdirkan Allah, masa hari ketiga, aku berpindah dari homestay masuk ke bilik hotel, kami share 6 orang satu apartment, dan salah sorang dari roomate aku ialah Hajah Madu yang femes tu! OMG! Apa lagi kan.. lepas dah ice breaking sket2, aku pun bertanya.. "Akak, saya nak tanya boleh? Apa maksud pakar madu tu? akak bukak bisnes jual madu atau akak ni hidup bermadu?" Tergelak besar dia dgr soalan aku. Hahaha..

Dia pun ceritalah.. She is actually a second wife. Her husband seorang ustaz yang ada 3 orang bini. And this is her second marriage. Her first marriage dia jadi isteri ketiga, tapi tak kekal lama. And I was like.. "WooOOOooooo...! Seriously???"

Tak tahu nak rasa apa masa tu. Tapi aku nak tahu lebih lanjut. So aku keep on asking. Apa akak rasa? Macam mana boleh handle semua tu?

Then ayat pertama dia yang aku ingat, kalau kita meletakkan Allah di tangga pertama dalam hidup kita, kemudian Rasulullah, yang ketiga baru suami, kita takkan rasa apa2. Suami itu bukan hak kita. Cuma Allah pinjamkan aje. Dah Allah kata kita kena kongsi, then kongsi je la. Terkedu jgk dengar. Ada betul jgak tu.

Banyak la kami bercerita pot pet pot pet tak abes2.. aku tanya, "Macam mana husband akak boleh cari masa untuk bahagikan between 3 orang isteri? bisnes lagi... Banyaknya masa dia?" Pastu dia ketawa je.. then dia ckp.. ko nak tahu macam mana laki akak? kalau akak berckp dengan dia, dia selalu blurr.. menung sana sini, panggil dua tiga kali baru menyahut.. haaa.. macam tu la gayanya.. padan muka kan.. ko nak sangat bini ramai, ko rasakan lah.. urusan tu blom selesai.. urusan ni belum selesai.. akak ok je.. uruskan hal akak.. urusan dia lantak dia.. pandai2 la bahagi masa.. kami tergelak besar je dgr dia cite camtu..

Ramai orang datang jumpa dengan dia masa break in between the program.. lelaki ramai, perempuan pun ramai.. Lelaki yang dtg approach dia, semua tanya.."Macam mana ye kak saya  ni nk tambah lagi sorang, calon dah ada, boleh kasi tips tak? kasi doa yang boleh sy amalkan?". Ada jgk memang dah ada 2 orang isteri, tanya macam mana nk suruh madu dia berbaik2.. sebab both madu dia asyik bergaduh.. haha.. Si lelaki2 ni abes kena basuh ngan kak hajah ni. Nak kawen lebih dari satu, mampu ke? Kalau bini pertama pun tak cukup itu ini, jangan berangan nak kawen dua. Ko bagi segala2nya pada isteri pertama, semua keperluan dia ko penuhi, rumah sebijik, keta sebijik, duit belanja tetap tiap2 bulan, anak2 pun sempurna cukup lengkap belaka, barulah ko boleh cari no.2. Kalau selagi tak lengkap semua ni, ko tak payah nak tambah 2. Hahah.. padan muko!

Then yang kes perempuan dtg jumpa dia lain plak nasihat dia. Ada perempuan datang ckp, "macam mana ni kak, suami saya nk tambah lagi sorang. Suami saya ada scandal.. bla bla bla.. . Then akak tu jawab. Dia nak kawen lagi satu ye? Ko bagi aje! Dia ingat seronok agaknya. Sebelum kawin semua manis. Dah kawin esok, semua busuk... So kesimpulannya, suami nak kawen, awk bagi je. Yang penting, awk kukuhkan ekonomi awk sendiri, jgn harapkan duit dia. Sibukkan diri. Bila dia bersama kita, bagi layan terbaik! Bila dia takde, kita teruskan hidup kita dengan bisnes dan anak2.. duit kita, duit kita. Duit dia, duit kita. Haaaa.. Tak payah nak baik hati tolong dia sana sini. Bila dia nk kawen dua, maksudnya dia mampu nak bagi nafkah pada semuaa bini dan anak2.. so jangan tolong. Biar dia berusaha sampai botak.. Hahahah.. Memang lawak dgr dia berckp. Dia kata, duit bisnes dia, sesen dia tak bagi pada suami. Hihi. .terbaik lah! Pastu dia ckp.. akak skang suh suami akak cari yang no.4 plak.. akak suruh dia cari yang muda2 anak dara. Senang sket keje akak. Biar yang muda tu bekerja keras. Dan budak muda ni, dia perangai pun manja. Kejap nak itu, kejap nk ini, mintak perhatian lebih, abang kat mana tu? abang buat apa tu? whatsapp sepanjang masa.. haa biar laki aku pening.. bhahahhaha.. seriusly, akak ni dtg dr planet mana? first time aku jumpa orang macam ni.

Dia pesan, don't go againts it. Nanti Allah betul2 uji. Jodoh tu dah termaktub. Sejak azali. Awak jadi isteri solehah terbaik di dunia sekalipun, kalau dah takdir suami akan cari isteri kedua or ketiga, terpaksa redha sebab itu takdir dari Allah.

Kalau kau isteri yang paling jahat sekalipun, kalau Allah dah letakkan jodoh dia hanya kau seorang, dia tetap akan setia jgk. So takde istilah tak pandai layan laki sebab tu laki cari lain. Nope. It's all sebab jodoh Allah. Ketentuan Allah.

Yang penting sekarang, hargai suami. Layan dia dengan terbaik. Cari syurga Allah dengan tiket seorang isteri. Cari pendapatan sendiri. Stabilkan ekonomi diri sendiri. Masa depan serah pada Allah. You'll be just fine. :)

Happily Occupied

Fuhhh.....

What a busy bee i am right now. But Alhamdulillah, God knows how much i love this feeling. Well, now it seems a bit berterabur, rasa macam nak amik cuti sebulan and organize everything. I know i have to focus one by one. Jangan tamak. Sabar Rozzairin.. haha.. ni semua salah Dr.Azizan Osman. Dah berjaya menggelodakkan jiwaku.

Been to Advance Marketing Power. Super best class dia. Dapat bina networking dengan ramai bisneswoman seluruh malaysia.. Tapi dalam kelas ni, mostly semua baru nak bertatih. But it's ok. We are here to support each other.

Then i went to Train The Trainer program. Dengan niat nak belajar jadi seorang Business Leader yang hebat. But i ended up belajar more on how to be a Trainer. How to be a speaker. Well, in a way, memang bagus ilmu dan skills ni since aku pun selalu dapat jemputan bagi talk pada cikgu2 seluruh Malaysia. Selama ni buat talk main hentam kromo je. Takde steps yang di follow. Sekarang bila dah belajar betul2, rasa cam.. haish, ntah apa2 je aku buat sebelum ni.. bapak la mengarut.. hahaha.. malu je. And actually boleh buat macam2 dengan ilmu ni. Memang sangat best. InsyaAllah, aku mohon agar diberi kesempatan aku apply semua teknik yang dah aku belajar ni. Memang berbaloi bayar ribu2 untuk kelas ni.

Plus, dalam program ni, ramai jumpa bisnesman and bisneswoman yang dah established. Malu plak nak cakap bisnes sampingan Shaklee aku cuma about rm5000 sebulan. Orang lain berpuluh ribu, beratus ribu sebulan. And paling best dpt satu group dengan Jutawan Anis Choc Moist. And bakal jutawan pes ayam madu yang untung rm40k sebulan. Kadang dorang ni buat bisnes yang aku x pernah dengar, tapi untung mak aiii.... terbeliak biji mata dengor. Betul lah Rasulullah suruh kita berniaga, sebab dengan cara tu, kita boleh jadi kaya. And yang bestnya dalam program ni, dia tak pernah tekankan kekayaan dunia sahaja. Yang paling penting is kaya di akhirat. Macam mana nk gunakan kekayaan dunia, untuk jadi kaya kat akhirat. Tu yang best kelas dia ni. Semangat lain macam. Sebab target tu jelas. In dunia and hereafter.

Btw, went to this program dengan Ria. Orang yang bertanggungjawab bawa aku terjebak. haha.. Ria, kita mesti buat tau.. Fast Action, Fast Result! So, jangan tunggu lama2, nanti lama2, otak pun beku.. haha.. Doakan kami! :)

10 marriage tips every wife needs to hear.

Someone shared this article on FB. I just had to post it here. So many lessons could be learned. For me. And for all of you who are reading this blog. I know some people have been reading my entries. Actually i was surprised to know that you guys still read blogs? i thought blogs are long abandoned.. haha.. Some have been asking me directly about my conditions. Some only dare to ask my other friend about me. And caused her to visit my blog too. Anyways, thanks for your concern. Please know that i super duper like to exaggerate my feelings. And my problems. after all, i'm just a normal woman. My hormones are crazy sometimes. No, actually most of the times. Please don't assume the worst. It's just me. I thought no one reads. haha.. my bad. anyways, have a read at this article k. And have a good day!

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There’s a blog post that’s recently gone viral, written by a divorced man featuring some really sound advice about marriage.  I really have to applaud this guy.  It takes guts to stand up and be transparent about your failures.  It’s equally as commendable to stand up and say how you’d do things differently.

One thing that his post is lacking, however, is the female perspective.  After reading his post, I wanted to take some time and write down some things that I’ve learned in the last ten years.  You see – I’m now in my third marriage.  When people learn this fact about me, their reaction is usually pretty awkward.  It’s almost as if they’re waiting for me to be embarrassed by my admission. While going through two divorces was some of the most painful times of my life, I’d only feel ashamed if I’d gone through it without being able to say I’ve learned a thing or two.  My husband and I had both been through divorce before we married each other, and with that brings a unique perspective into many do’s and don’ts of how to treat your spouse. Don’t get me wrong – our marriage isn’t perfect, but our failures in past relationships have shaped decisions we make about the way we treat each other, and to be honest, I’m glad I went through it.  We’ve learned better, so now we do better.

And with that, I’d like to offer up my version of his wise marriage tips – from a woman who has triumphed the murky waters of divorce.

1 )Respect your husband.  

 Notice how it doesn’t say “Respect your husband if he has earned it”. A man’s greatest need in this world is to be respected, and the person he desires that respect from the most is his wife.  The trap that we’ve all been ensnared by is that they only deserve our respect when they earn it. Yes, we want our husbands to make decisions that will ultimately garner our respect, but the truth is that your husband is a human being. A human being who makes mistakes. This is the man that YOU have chosen to walk alongside you for the rest of your life, and to lead your family and he needs to be respected for that quality alone. Take it from me – when respect is given even when he doesn’t deserve it, it will motivate him to earn it. That doesn’t mean you pretend that his choices are good ones when they aren’t. Things like that still need to be communicated, but you can flesh out your differences WITH RESPECT. It makes all the difference in the world to him.

2) Guard your heart.  

 The grass is not greener on the other side. Do not believe the lie that with a slimmer figure, a higher salary, a faster car, or a bigger house, you will be a happier woman. The world is full of things and people that will serve as reminders that you don’t have the best of the best, but it’s simply not true. Live the life you’ve been blessed with, and BE THANKFUL. I get that we all have struggles, and there are even times when I would love 1,000 more square feet of house to live in, but square feet is not fulfilling – relationships are. Guard your heart from things and people that will try to convince you that your life or your husband is not good enough.  There will always be bigger, faster, stronger, or shinier – but you’ll never be satisfied with more until you’re fulfilled with what you have now.

3) God, husband, kids…in that order.  

 I know this isn’t a popular philosophy, especially among mothers, but hear me out. It’s no secret that my faith is of utmost importance, so God comes first in my life no matter what. But regardless of your belief system, your husband should come before your kids. Now unless you’re married to someone who is abusive  (in which case, I urge you to seek help beyond what my blog can give you), no man in his right mind would ask you to put your kids aside to serve his every need while neglecting them. That’s not what this means. When you board an airplane, the flight attendants are required to go over emergency preparedness prior to takeoff. When explaining the part about how to operate the oxygen mask, passengers are instructed to first put the mask on themselves before putting it on their small child. Is that because they think you are more important than your kids? Absolutely not. But you cannot effectively help your child if you can’t breathe yourself. The same holds true with marriage and parenting. You cannot effectively parent your children if your marriage is falling apart. Take it from me – I tried. There will also come a time when your kids will leave the house to pursue their dreams as adults. If you have not cultivated a lasting relationship with your spouse, you will have both empty nests and empty hearts.

4) Forgive.  

No one is perfect. Everyone makes mistakes. If you make forgiveness a habit – for everything from major mistakes to little annoyances (every day, I have to forgive my husband for leaving the wet towel on the bathroom counter ;)) – you will keep resentment from growing.

5) Over-communicate.  

I used to have a bad habit of not speaking my feelings. I played the standard “You should know why I’m mad” game, and that’s just downright unfair. Men are not wired like women, and they DON’T always know that they’ve been insensitive. I’m still growing in this area, and there are often times when my husband has to pry something out of me, but I’m trying to remember that I need to just communicate how I feel.

6) Schedule a regular date night.  

This one isn’t new, but it’s very important. Never stop dating your spouse.  Even if you can’t afford dinner and a movie (which we seldom can), spending some regular one-on-one time with your spouse is essential. Don’t talk about bills, or schedules, or the kids. Frankie and I often daydream about our future, or plan our dream vacation. We connect emotionally and often learn something new about each other – even after four years.

7) Never say the “D Word”.  

If you’re gonna say it, you better mean it. Plain and simple, threatening divorce is not fighting fair. I did this a lot in my previous marriages. I’m not proud of it, but I learned better. I was hurting deeply, and I wanted to hurt back, but it never helped me feel better.

8) Learn his love language.  

Everyone has a love language. The way you perceive love is often different from the way your spouse perceives love. Does he like words of affirmation, or does he respond better when you give him gifts? Whatever his love language is – learn it and USE IT.  Edited to add: If you are unfamiliar with the principles behind love languages, you can learn more about it here.

9) Never talk negatively about him.  

I learned this lesson the hard way too. If you’re going through a difficult time in your marriage and you need advice, see a counselor. Family counseling is a great tool, but try to remember that your family members and friends are not the most objective people to give advice. The argument they are hearing is one-sided and they often build up negative feelings toward your spouse, which usually doesn’t subside once you and your husband have gotten past it. Protect his image with those that you’re close with and seek help from those that can actually be objective.  News flash, ladies – your mother cannot be objective!

10) Choose to love.  

There are times in a marriage that you may wake up and not feel in love anymore. Choose to love anyway. There are times when you may not be attracted to your husband anymore. Choose to love anyway. Marriage is a commitment. In sickness and health, in good times and in bad. Those vows are sacred. They don’t say “if you have bad times”. They say “in good times AND in bad”, implying that there WILL be bad times. It’s inevitable. So choose to love anyway. He’s worth it.